saying no

Do you need to separate psychologically from your parents?

Ask yourself the following questions: As an adult when dealing with a parent/s: Do you find it difficult to say ‘No’? Do you feel pressure to keep in contact frequently? Do you feel you have to keep your opinions to yourself? Do you feel angry with a parent but are not sure why? Can you say ‘I am not spending Christmas with you this year?’ and not feel guilty? Do you feel manipulated into doing things? Do you feel more responsible than your friends feel towards their parent’s? Can you hold a different opinion from your parent’s and feel it is accepted? Are you able to go away on holiday?  and not stay in touch? and not feel guilty? Do you rely on their financial support, or gifts (wanted or otherwise)? Are you still living with a parent – is it your choice? Do you feel responsible for you parent’s [...]

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