I found your website very interesting. I am in my mid thirties and as an only child can relate to many of the issues that were discussed in your research interviews. One thing which I have lived with (and continue to do so) is the guilt and pressure you feel when you are the sole focus of your parents attention. My dad had me when he was in his early forties and I was very much a daddy’s girl, my parents divorced and he died recently. I found that the more ill he became the more distant I became towards him since I found the guilt of trying to live my own life overwhelming and couldn’t stand the pressure of this guilt which was not coming from him but from me. Of course now he is no longer here I feel terrible and wish I could have done things differently. I am interested to know if any one has had a similar experience?
I have been lucky enough to have 2 children and that in itself was a deliberate choice since I didn’t want an only child to have to go through the same feelings. I also believe being the only one has effected the way I am in my marriage and am very over sensitive to criticism and arguments since this was something that never happened in my childhood.